Manifestation

Thursday, January 07th, 2021

Have you ever sat down and wrote down what you are looking for? Like really thought about what you need versus what you want? See a little over a year ago, someone I worked with gave me a piece of paper and told me to write down the five things I physically wanted in my partner, and the five things I needed personality / characteristic wise. The plot of this was was "set me up" with one of their friends but they wanted to match us up well.

It was an exercise I thought was stupid, but funny enough literally a month after I did it I met my ex, so I dont know - I dont really question the process I think it is a cool exercise to take part in. So I'm asking you - take a moment what are the five physical features you are looking for in your future partner? I'll go first so you aren't to nervous to take part. Well for me I'm not a big "physical feature" person, I like people based on their personality and I like getting to know someone on a real level - not superficial. While we all have preferences, they aren't hard requirements. 1) I would like someone who is taller than me, for what purpose? Well, Im 5'6.5 - which is "tall" for the average female. I just want someone to be taller than me so I can look up to them, have goofy gross romantic moments like in hallmark movies. I want to be a good high when I go in for a hug, and feel like I am "safe" and "protected" within the embrace. I also want the option to wear heels - that is when I choose to wear them ... which we know is rare since I wore crocs to formal last year! 2) someone with good teeth, idk I love to smile, and I want to look at someone smile all the time - I think it also stems from living in London for two years and seeing how some people had bad teeth - the base for this is really good hygiene someone who takes care of themself. 3) someone with bright eyes, I'm all about eye contact and I want to get lost in someones eyes, and eyes always sparkle when they are happy - plus my grand father always told me eyes are the most honest part of a person, they are vulnerable, honest, and reveal a lot without words being spoken. 4) its always nice when someone has nice hair, you know its something to play with ... run you fingers through, something to grab on to if you catch my drift lol. 5) someone who is "fit" now that doesn't mean they are any type of way - it means they are healthy for there body type they take care of themself. That could be someone who is athletic, or someone with a dad body in all honesty its all about someone who is cuddly, and for me I like my men with a little meat on their bones ... they just cant have a better ass than me. I want someone who works out so they can work out with me - it would be so nice to have a gym partner and someone to just better ourselves with together.

But physicality doesn't last, what people look like dont really matter. For me I look at people for who they are within, that is what matters - is who they are, and what you bring to the table. So now that you have thought about what your ideal person looks like - it is time to go beneath the surface and dig deep. It is time to think about what really matters to you. Again I'll go first so you feel better about doing the exercise on your own. 1) I am looking for a partner, a best friend. Someone who is willing to build each other up, support them on their goals and want to better themselves together. It is all about being the best version of ourselves, so finding a partner who will grow with me and push me out of my comfort-zone, and support me to grow - there is nothing hotter than someone pushing you to be better, to do better. 2) I am looking for someone who is understanding and compassionate, law school and law in general is difficult and demanding of ones time - so I need someone to understand my time is valuable and limited and be willing to work with me and not against me. I need them to be worth my time. I'm tired of making myself fit someone else's life - it is time for someone to fit into my life, and that is something I want now. 3) I need a partner who is religious and spiritual. To me my faith is so important and it would be so nice to have a partnership ground in the church, someone who I am able to grow in m faith and go to church with on a Sunday, To me my faith saved me and helped me in dark times and I want someone who connects with that. 4) someone who is respectful and humble, that they are encouraging with their words. We all have flaws, I am looking for a partner who doesn't point mine out, that loves me for me and who I am despite the flaws that I see, despite my insecurities. Someone who knows my boundaries and respects them, and doesn't try to push. That is willing to admit when they are wrong and apologize instead of make excuses and blame others. 5) Someone who is family oriented, my family is everything to me and my friends are my family - I want them to get along and make an effort to get to know them. For me it is finding a balance and harmony, someone who sees me for who I am. I want someone who doesn't want to "change me" but wants to "change with me". We can always improve and I want that partner ship where people are best friends. I want to have a safe space to express my emotions, my frustrations, my fears and feel safe doing so.

I am a strong, independent, and determined woman. I work hard for what I have and what I want ... I need someone who will compliment that. I need someone who is driven and will not put me down for my successes. I want them to cheer me on and be able to say my success, is our shared success. Its so cliche but I've always wanted someone to come to my swim meets and watch me race and see the hard work I put in at the pool - to cheer me on and me like thats "my girl" to be proud of me. But really the one thing I hope for one day is for my partner to want to "Show me off" and I'm not talking about positing about me in a social media era - but being proud to say I'm there girlfriend, for people to know ... to not feel like I'm a hidden secret.

Honestly all I want is for someone to go to the gym with, cuddle at home with and watch movies. Bring me a cup of tea while I'm studying late at night. Someone I can cook dinner for ... and with in the kitchen. I'm a hopeless romantic and a home body so these corny cliche things that seem so simple - those mean the most to me. Just to sleep in my partners sweatshirt, or to have someone to FaceTime when we aren't together. Someone to send me new music to check out because they heard something and it made them think of me. I just want someone I can share life with - someone I can experience things with. I want someone I can take on adventures and travel with! Those memories are priceless. While I wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm a hopeless romantic - I'm all about romancing my life and having that main character energy. I know he's out there, and I hope he's looking for me ... I'm waiting for him to find me. For now I'm out here living my life, bettering myself - so you can enjoy the best version of me I have to offer. I have all this love, I just want to give it to someone and share it ... but I also know I want to feel the love back, I want to feel wanted and needed .... I want to be able to have an open line of communication and talk about our feelings, emotions, what is bothering us - whatever it may be, I want to have the safe space to have the dialogue without judgement. I just want to be heard, and not talked over, I dont want to feel like I am not valid. There may be limited hours in the day, but if they want to they will make time for what is important. It takes 2.5 seconds to say hi. So there is no excuse. People make time for what they want to make time for, and you shouldn't settle and put up with less than you deserve. Know your worth.

Honestly all I want is for someone to go to the gym with, cuddle at home with and watch movies. Bring me a cup of tea while I'm studying late at night. Someone I can cook dinner for ... and with in the kitchen. I'm a hopeless romantic and a home body so these corny cliche things that seem so simple - those mean the most to me. Just to sleep in my partners sweatshirt, or to have someone to FaceTime when we aren't together. Someone to send me new music to check out because they heard something and it made them think of me. I just want someone I can share life with - someone I can experience things with. I want someone I can take on adventures and travel with! Those memories are priceless. While I wear my heart on my sleeve and I'm a hopeless romantic - I'm all about romancing my life and having that main character energy. I know he's out there, and I hope he's looking for me ... I'm waiting for him to find me. For now I'm out here living my life, bettering myself - so you can enjoy the best version of me I have to offer. I have all this love, I just want to give it to someone and share it ... but I also know I want to feel the love back, I want to feel wanted and needed .... I want to be able to have an open line of communication and talk about our feelings, emotions, what is bothering us - whatever it may be, I want to have the safe space to have the dialogue without judgement. I just want to be heard, and not talked over, I dont want to feel like I am not valid.

I know what I dont want and what I won't put up with any more. There is no reason to ever settle. There is no reason you should be making excuses for someone. If they wanted to they would, it is as simple as that. It takes 2.5 seconds to send a text. I won't settle or accept less than I deserve now. If you dont want to be about me fine I'm not going to be about you. I dont have time to waste my time or energy on someone who isn't giving me what I need or at least trying to put in the effort. It takes time to warm up to people and to give each other what they need - but when someone wants something they will make it work. For now till I find that person who will want to make it work with me, and can give me what I need, what I deserve. I am okay being on my own right now - in this state of singleness. It is my chapter of life to better myself to be selfish and focus on myself - and to date myself. No one will treat you better than you will. Give yourself what you need, take yourself to the movies, or out to dinner, buy yourself flowers. It is simply that easy to be happier on your own, live life to the fullest. You attached the type of energy you give off so be loving and confident and you'll find that in return! Trust me you are worth it and you deserve to have someone who matches your energy and personality! Never settle - they are out there, God just isn't ready for you to cross paths just yet. I am not dating for fun, I dont date just to date - I date with the purpose of marriage - I am dating someone to lay down the foundation for a future, and I think more people need to have that mind set - sometimes marriage isn't for everyone but thats not the point im making - the point is, people need to date for a purpose, and it needs to be the right propose.